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If You Don’t Like Your Story, Change It: Parts 2 & 3

by Gretchen Belenchia

The Triple A Method: Awareness, Appreciation, Action
Parts 2 and 3: Appreciation and Action 

In the first installment of this series, I wrote about the "Triple A Method" and how it was developed. Part 1 is about building awareness of of the stories that you want to change.

Parts 2 and 3 address Appreciation and Action - 2 steps that follow Awareness so that if you don't like your story, you can change it - and here's how.

Part 2: Appreciation

Appreciation is about really looking around and seeing where you are right now. How did these stories become a part of your life? This step is another exercise in being present and building awareness, but it also develops positive reflection, projection, and planning.

Positive Reflection

If You Don’t Like Your Story, Change It: Parts 2 & 3, Cloud Gate Acupuncture and Healing Arts in Broomfield, ColoradoIf you discover that you want to change one of your stories and that you are not in such an awesome place in your life, reflect on how you got to be where you are. But be positive about it - and if you can’t be positive, at least try to be unbiased and neutral.

Stop judging yourself.

Whatever choices you made are in the past. You can’t change them, but you can certainly learn from them. Awareness and appreciation will help you leave those stories in your past as well.

Looking back or reflecting (without getting sucked into the past) is always such an interesting exercise for me. I see each decision along my path as a marker for how I got to be where I am today. And for each one I ask: what is the lesson that came along with this choice and how is this applicable to where I am today?

You can even take notes if you find that to be helpful. Positively reflect on your stories: it is your life, and you are often your best teacher.


Reflection and awareness of your stories build a proper platform so that you can project where you want to be in the future. Where do you want to be in 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, etc.?

In what way are you going to change your story? How is it going to look? How are you going to look? What is happening in your life? Get specific! It’s your story and your life – start writing it! This process should be fun and exciting.

Don’t limit yourself. This is the time to dream.


Now it’s time to fill in the blanks between the present and your projected future.

How are you going to get there?

Planning is a mixture of faith, advice, and experience. But you already have a great platform for planning – because you are aware of the stories that you want to change and appreciate how you got to be where you are right now.

Ask for advice from others – you are not as alone as you may think you are. Someone has most certainly been through a similar story – find out what they did to change that story.

And sometimes you may realize that you don’t need a plan. You may just need to jump in and go for it. For example, some people need a plan to stop smoking; others just quit and never look back.

Part 3: Action

Part 3 is where courage and resolve come more into play. Parts 1 and 2 are great, but in order to really change your story, you must act. You are aware of the story that you want to change, you can appreciate where you are right now and how you got there, and now you must take action if you really want to bring about a change in your story.

You have a projection of your future, you have your plan and most importantly, you have the present moment. That is all you have to work with – and that is enough. You always have the present moment.

The present is where choices are made and stories are changed. 
Start implementing your plan. Start today.
Change your story.